What happens after today’s marriage?

The sense of complete submission and saying you are mine and I’m yours still kinda scares me. Because what happens after those statements sometimes is the untold.

And this is where my question comes in; What happens after people get married?

Everyday we see people in Kukyala ceremonies, kwanjula ceremonies, baby showers, weddings, proposals, but the silence that follows these ceremonies is very palapable. Complete silence.

Recently I asked someone if she was doing okay because after she got married , she went into ‘oblivion’. I see this with many of my colleagues after they get married. The beautiful selfies they once posted are no more, the kind of love they had for themselves tends to change. I bet you agree with me. If the love is displaced to their husbands, why then is it that they don’t even post these husbands on social media celebrating anniversaries or small achievements together. Because they post their friends, and not the husband..the assumed new bestfriend. Sometimes not even the children (we can understand its for the safety of their children sometimes)

But still, I want to know what happens in the corridors of current marriages. I’m not sure I have found myself yet, but I don’t want to lose the little self I have gathered of myself all these years.

I’m abit scared 😧